SubscribeThe Wedding (part one)
Welcome to my first attempt at blogging. I have so far stayed away from blogging as there hasn’t really been anything I feel strong enough about to start a discussion. Now, I have!
You may or may not know that, in May this year I am getting married. Before everybody starts “oohhing”, “arrhhing” and saying congratulations I think I need to dispel some myths about this happy occasion.
Myth 1. The bride gets everything they want and goes a bit Bridezilla:
False! The groom does have a say. It’s only fair as it is there day as well. This is something that from the beginning that I made sure of. My groom to be (Matt) have very definite ideas about what he wants and that is great. We agree on most things and anything we don’t agree on we reach a happy compromise. On the other hand it is nobody else’s day, but they do insist on having their say and are quick to criticise.
Myth 2. Organising a wedding is fun and a happy time:
It isn’t. Please see above.
Melissa’s Advise:
Put your foot down at the beginning with any strong willed family members (usually female). As the bride you will be at the front line of the wedding war and as far as they are concerned you are the enemy. The two main pieces of advise I have been given which were so valuable where:
‘Don’t take it to heart.’ & ‘Don’t focus on the small stuff’ none of it really matters. These last two pieces of advise came from men, the only sex with any sense when there is a wedding apparently. Since then I have tackle the arrangements as I would a work project and it seems to work for me.
I just have to say Congratulations to Caroline our Accounts Director on her forthcoming nuptials. You have it all to come and I will help where I can during this traumatic time.
Posted by Melissa on Tuesday 12th of February 2008 at 6:15pm
You could do what one of my friends did and refer to yourself as 'The Bride to be' all the time in the run up to the wedding to remind people of your important status. Eg: On the phone; 'Hello, it's The Bride to be here!' Annoying but makes sure you NEVER forget!
Unfortunately you do have to concede some things - ref the disgusting shoes my sister insisted on wearing as Bridesmaid. You can get round most things though - I just told the photographer to only take head and shoulder photos of her!! (Nikki, if you read this then obviously I loved those shoes and especially enjoyed paying for them).
Good luck Melissa!
Posted by Louise on Wednesday 13th of February 2008 at 12:08pm